40 questions about 2004

This has been sitting around in my drafts box for a while now, and in a fit of productivity I thought I'd just be done with it already and hit publish, instead of procrastinating, or ignoring it.

1. What did you do in 2004 that you’d never done before?

Explored new york city. Learned a little bit more about my independent streak and how I want my life to be. Moved out of my parents house.

2. Did you keep your New Years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

On purpose, every year I refuse to make any, other than to be a better, happier me than I was the year before. That's it.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

No. Good friends are well on their way to giving birth, but aren't quite there yet...

4. Did anyone close to you die?

No. 2004 was a surprisingly good non-funeral year. It was a nice change.

5. What countries did you visit?

Nothing serious. Canada and the US. I was supposed to go to Peru, to the mountains, but I had to cancel because of my injured foot.

6. What would you like to have in 2005 that you lacked in 2004?

More happiness. A self-sufficient business. Things I don't know about yet. Friends who don't ditch you because their fiance thinks you're a threat.

7. What date from 2004 will remain etched upon your memory?

January 2nd
February 2nd
August 4th
August 7th
September 24th
December 29th

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Moving out.
Starting a new job I didn't hate, but instead, fell in love with.
Fostering kittens.
Discovering creativity again.

9. What was your biggest failure?

Sometimes, I think my biggest failure is caring too much, and putting too much of myself into something. Fear of the unknown. A friendship with someone I cared about.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

Unless you count my screwed up foot, no.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

I can't think of anything to put here. It's not really the material stuff that matters. If I had to say one thing, it would be film. or paint. or fabric.

12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?

Lesley's. She's a tough cookie, and she's had a tough year, but she still came out on top. Jen's. One of my favourite girls. Always ready with a smile, good advice, and a dose of relaxation.

13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

Tim's. It's difficult to be used and tossed away by people who professed their love for you, and also their friendship. I don't think the pain from that will every go away entirely.

14. Where did most of your money go?

Necessities. Sports. Vietnamese food. Coffee shops.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

New York City.
My bass.

16. What song/album will always remind you of 2004?

Tristan & Iseult - Tarkio
This is how it goes - Aimee Mann
Calendar Girl - Stars

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:

More confident? Yes.
Thinner? No.
Richer? In thought, yes. In money, no.
More creative? Yes.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Traveling, dreaming, creating, taking risks, taking pictures, loving, writing.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Dwelled on bad things. Worked.

20. How will you be spending Christmas?

I spent it at home, with my family. It's always nice to go home.

21. Who did you spend the most time on the phone with?

Ben. Or Chris.

22. Did you fall in love in 2004?

No, I was already there.

23. How many one night stands in this last year?


24. What was your favourite TV programme?

I don't really watch a lot of TV, but if I had to pick, probably the amazing race, or CSI.

25. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?

No. It takes a lot for me to hate someone. Despise, maybe. Avoid, definitely. But there's only really one person who I liked then that I don't now.

26. What was the best book(s) you read?

Life of Pi.
Lemony Snicket's Series of Unfortunate Events.
Biographies of musicians from the 60's and 70's.

27. What was your greatest musical discovery?

Hm....this one is tough. Probably Stars, though I had tangentially heard of them in late 2003. Maybe Dios. Snow Patrol (this was brought to my attention by an ex. Run almost always makes me feel teary).
Best rediscovery? Eleni Mandell.

28. What did you want and get?

Freedom. A job I loved. A studio space.

29. What did you want and not get?

A tropical island?

30. What were your favourite films of this year?

I'm not sure. I saw a bunch of films, but I can't honestly say that I had any distinct favourites. I'l have to think about this one for a while.

31. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I was twenty-five. My former friend Tim hired a limo for my and 7 of my best friends, including Lauren (who was up from Halifax) and my sister. We drove aimlessly around the city for a few hours whilst drinking champagne and other things, stopping briefly to take a group photo, visit a McDonalds (oh drunken french fries!), and see the remaining christmas lights. There was dinner that followed, at the delish Savannah Cafe with even more friends. A wonderful night.

32. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

The guts to get off my butt and do lilybug for real, full time. The guts to quit everything and go to art school (maybe this year).

33. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2004?

Whatever I felt like wearing. Casual. Dressy. Red dressy. Knee socks.

34. What kept you sane?

Music. Photos. Writing.

35. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

Huh. No idea here.

36. What political issue stirred you the most?

Same sex marriage. The US Election. The DMCA & music downloading legislation. Ex-girlfriends.

37. Who did you miss?


38. Who was the best new person you met?

This one's a tough one. There were lots. Liz (and by tangent, other Liz), probably.

39. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2004.

No one else is going to make you happy but yourself. If you care about everyone and everything, you'll have nothing left for yourself.

40. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year?

"If you don't love me, let me go / I am a writer / a writer of fictions / I am the heart that you call home / I've written pages upon pages / trying to rid you from my bones"
- The Decemberists, Engine

"Live through this/and you won't look back"
- Stars, Your ex-lover is dead

"May the sun, always shine on you/And each day, feel so bright and new"
"May the moon always light your way/and love be forever here to stay"
- Clem Snide, Fontanelle